Complains... are you guilty of it?

This is a topic which i wanted to post last week but couldn't find the time... so now I'm blogging about it.. but still i'm trying to recall what exactly did i want to write about.... so this post may be a bit here and there...

Read about a piece of blog from a friend's blog who is complaining about colleague... And that was what struck me to write about this post... Complaining is something which i think we are all guilty of it... not to say about others, I myself am guilty of complains... if you read the pieces in my blogs, most of them are about complains... complains about my boss, my bro, my family, my colleagues, singaporeans, strangers and including myself....

sometimes i really wonder when we complain are we guilty of what we are complaining? Do we cause the "injustice" to happen?? For example this friend is complaining about his colleague not helping him... but then did he gave the colleague a chance to do it?? and when the colleague gave suggestion did he just shoot it down without any words of encouragement?? I'm not saying that the fault is all on my friend but sometimes when something happens, both parties are to be blamed....

My boss is another person who does things in such a way... he will ask us to give suggestion... then we will not hear any news about it... until the thing is done and we realise our suggestion is not adopted... well it could be because of resource constraint etc that our suggestions is not adopted, but i think he should have told us about it and let us understand the situation... we can't read his mind... so over time, we get use to it and stop giving anymore suggestions... so who is to be blamed? nobody exactly... if there is fault its the fault of both..

so having say that why do i still complain... for me complaining is just a form of relieving my fustration, etc... sometimes when i say i'm piss with my boss I'm just piss... not really or exactly angry... and not really "piss" kind of piss... just fustrated with how things are getting... and not exactly with him as a person or boss but rather the situation I'm in and the environment etc.... or the chinese saying 對事不對人....

at the end of the day its okie to complain.. but after complaining we have to learn from it or put the thing down and not carry the "unjust" with us... otherwise our back will start to ache....